Will Smith recalls iconic “how come he don’t want me" scene + Being pushed by James Avery

  • Published: 20 July 2018
  • Black Press Media Group, July 2018

    Emmy Award winning actor Will Smith joins Rap Radar and reflects on working with actor James Avery also known as "Uncle Phil" on sitcom The Fresh Prince of Belair. Will talks about the iconic "how come he don't want me" scene.

    Via: @BlackPressNetworks on Instagram

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  • Chama B.
    Chama B.  1 years back

    I think this scene gets to so many people is because, besides the superb acting, too many of us have asked ourselves this question as children. Why weren't we good enough? What was so wrong with us that they didn't love us? Why weren't we worth it for dad to stay in our lives? What was so hard about being with us? That's why all of us ride or die for Uncle Phil. He was the father we never had.

    • archona54
      archona54  6 days back

      Some people still say that as adults when they can't find the person to live their life with and go thru multiple failed relationships or can't find relationships at all...
      Life sucks sometimes

    • Sueann Valenzuela
      Sueann Valenzuela  3 weeks back

      Trystan Daryl wherever you are because it’s hard to scroll through all this and find the exact comment ..but it actually is..I’ve seen interviews on him talking about how his father left him and all and he made something of himself .So you are incorrect sir it is about his father..

    • AbyLaDiva
      AbyLaDiva  4 weeks back

      My dad left because appearntly god told him Honestly as a kid i never thought of those question just thought dads were evil people ...Probably becaue the stepdad was also a piece of crap but i never asked what was wrong with me.....I guess i just said i would be a better parent in the future....

    • Jeremy Giron
      Jeremy Giron  1 months back

      Chama B. Fuck now I’m crying 😭

    • Arty TheArtist
      Arty TheArtist  1 months back

      Both of my parents abandon me, luckily they abandon me with a family member my dads mother. When I was six I asked my grandmother "how come my mommy and daddy dont want me with them?". I grew up watching all my school friends grow up in a household with their mom and dad, in story books the mom and dad and the kids were all under one roof, while it was never like that for me. So what was wrong with me? What did I do to make them leave me ? I was abandon at 3 years old, not one parent came back to take care of me. Now I'm an adult I didnt have them then and i dont need them now. Just the truth no matter how cruel it sounds.

  • Boneax _
    Boneax _  24 hours back

    Easily one of the greatest moments in tv history, a testament to the talent of James Avery and Will Smith
    R.I.P. uncle Phil

    • Aaron Foltz
      Aaron Foltz  1 days back

      It's so good to see Will talk about this. rip James. This show was monumental.

      • Natashaly Rivera
        Natashaly Rivera  4 days back

        This sense makes everyone cry cuz I feel like there’s so many ppl tht can relate to father walking out after they made promises tht he couldn’t keep and no matter how hard u try to say fuck u I don’t need a dad but then he comes back in your life and u just want him to love u but he ends up walking out and all u can ever ask yourself is “y he ain’t want me “ to blame yourself cuz he never gave u love so self love is hard

        • coolreem
          coolreem  5 days back

          Writing and acting at its finest!

          • liam gibbons
            liam gibbons  5 days back

            Damn the part taht gets me tearing up is " I had 14 whole birthdays without him "

            • bat508
              bat508  6 days back

              Hands down one of the greatest episodes in television history and black television history; along with the episode where Will gets shot while shielding Carlton as he was being robbed.

              • Abel Lewis
                Abel Lewis  6 days back

                In loving memory of James Avery. (November 27, 1945 – December 31, 2013)

                • Jose Morales
                  Jose Morales  7 days back

                  God speed, my TV brother! We never met in real life, but I think you would've been a great man to have the privilege of knowing. Will Smith definitely thinks so. To make a fellow actor come out with that authentic moment, and nearly have him in tears as well. Spot on, Mr. Smith AND Mr. Avery 🇵🇷🇺🇸😎

                  • Dom Sansotta
                    Dom Sansotta  1 weeks back

                    Still gets me balling in tears . This scene is still so powerful to this day . It’s so relatable to so many young men to this day . I can defeniteley say it hit close to home with me and my raal dad p

                    • g7924
                      g7924  1 weeks back

                      the scene with carlton in the hospital is far more moving
                      damn if only niggas would take care of their kids we wouldn't be having this conversation 😁😁

                      • Eiju urushihara
                        Eiju urushihara  1 weeks back

                        even it was show i felt hin so bad 😅

                        • Danni Brandon
                          Danni Brandon  1 weeks back

                          Deepest scene ever. So emotional.

                          • Ecca Ferg
                            Ecca Ferg  1 weeks back

                            My mother and father have never been together since my birth, I can count on one hand dad's visits to me until I was 18!!!

                            • Robert B
                              Robert B  1 weeks back

                              there really aren't too many moments in tv show history that reach a level as that scene did. also, the episode with Carlton getting a gun was powerful when will was in the bed. and when carl was called a sellout and he had that amazing speech he gave. How about Rock or Roc on his tv show doing that scene where he told the crack dealer to get the hell off his street. that was an amazing one as well. Mr. Feeny saying goodbye to the kids from boy meets world was great.I'm sure i can think of others but imma stop typing now lol

                              • Jeff Galus
                                Jeff Galus  4 days back

                                Or Andy Taylor making Opie listening to babies birds crying for the mother when Opie accidentally killed her with a sling shot

                            • Mario Sanchez
                              Mario Sanchez  2 weeks back

                              I’m literally thinking of the scene and I am tearing up

                              • Ethan Matz
                                Ethan Matz  2 weeks back

                                James Avery was such a beast. RIP big man.

                                • Tim Tube07
                                  Tim Tube07  2 weeks back


                                  • Waldis Portes
                                    Waldis Portes  2 weeks back

                                    I know the feeling. My dad never showed love for me and my brothers and I still ask the same question.

                                    • FURinTeeth
                                      FURinTeeth  2 weeks back

                                      James Avery was Epic!

                                      • King_Jason
                                        King_Jason  2 weeks back

                                        Chills anyone

                                        • every1getready
                                          every1getready  2 weeks back

                                          That scene is so powerful and there isn’t even a lick of music in the background to build it up, incredible

                                          • Kayleigh-Jo Adams
                                            Kayleigh-Jo Adams  2 weeks back

                                            This will never not make cry

                                            • Toshia Bedford
                                              Toshia Bedford  3 weeks back

                                              What hurts the most is as a daughter I never had felt love from my mom and my father wasn’t absent and to see this scene reminds me of how I use to ask my mom this question or even asked where he was and how could I find him and when we found him it was like he was still gone HOW COME HE DONT WANT HIS KIDS 😢😢😢😢

                                              • Hector Canchola
                                                Hector Canchola  3 weeks back

                                                I don't bought it, maybe all the "I do better without him and I'll do great without him" part was scrypted, but sure he broke character and you can see James Avery (not Uncle Phil) natural reaction hugging Will Smith (the actor not the Character)

                                                • Mech
                                                  Mech  3 weeks back

                                                  I heard that the scene was all real, and not acting, he just had it bottled up and threw it out.

                                                  • Wild Cloud
                                                    Wild Cloud  3 weeks back

                                                    Will smith never lost his dad haha

                                                • Moon Starful
                                                  Moon Starful  3 weeks back

                                                  Honestly I don’t even understand why my dad didn’t want someone like my sisters and I I- 😡🥺😔

                                                  • Nethum
                                                    Nethum  3 weeks back

                                                    Only scene that has ever made me cry

                                                    • EasySingularity
                                                      EasySingularity  3 weeks back

                                                      I saw that scene and i lost it... It reminded me of what i had to deal with. Will Re-created that so well. he is an amazing actor

                                                      • Honig 05
                                                        Honig 05  3 weeks back

                                                        I was in the same situation a week ago.... I reacted just like him and my uncle was just like uncle Phil

                                                        • griim4889 on fn
                                                          griim4889 on fn  4 weeks back

                                                          Was I supposed to cry when I watched that? It feels like I was but like I didn't even get emotional?

                                                        • GoHBK-_-
                                                          GoHBK-_-  4 weeks back

                                                          anybody else hear someone else, maybe in the audience, crying? around 3:38 ?

                                                        • Arun James
                                                          Arun James  4 weeks back

                                                          i wish i had Uncle Phil in my life

                                                          • Sueann Valenzuela
                                                            Sueann Valenzuela  4 weeks back

                                                            A lot of us can relate Will .

                                                            • Connor Smith
                                                              Connor Smith  1 months back

                                                              That scene really got to me, my dad ran off before i was born. im 18 now and i recently tried to meet him but he wasn't interested and i had the same question "why doesn't he want me?" But luckily i have my stepdad who raised me and he's my actual father now like phil was to will :)

                                                              • Donald Hellscream
                                                                Donald Hellscream  1 months back

                                                                Why did you have to play that scene at the end? I'm trying to sleep, but now my tears are flooding my bed.

                                                                • dookiecheww
                                                                  dookiecheww  1 months back

                                                                  how come he don’t want me man?


                                                                  • Gracie - Pooh
                                                                    Gracie - Pooh  1 months back

                                                                    This scene really hit me...I didn’t have a father, not even a father figure really! My mom got a few boyfriends but they were never there really, it didn’t seem like they cared about me or my brother. I felt exactly how he felt, why doesn’t he want me! I used to think there was something wrong with me and my brother! I thought that he left because of me and my brother. I thought that if we weren’t here then my dad would have stayed.. I’m crying while typing, I can’t type anymore😭 Good job Mr Smith!

                                                                    • Eclipse The night
                                                                      Eclipse The night  1 months back

                                                                      “To hell with him!” and “how come he don’t want me!” get me the most

                                                                      • RAGING IN A MANKINI
                                                                        RAGING IN A MANKINI  1 months back

                                                                        Who the F*CK can dislike this????????

                                                                        • TheClarkBark
                                                                          TheClarkBark  1 months back

                                                                          So much for that “he was actually talking about his dad” bullshit that the internet made up lol

                                                                          • ~TurtleMan~
                                                                            ~TurtleMan~  1 months back

                                                                            Perhaps his career-best performance.

                                                                            • Pritesh Govindji
                                                                              Pritesh Govindji  1 months back

                                                                              Will Smith and James Avery have no idea how much they impacted children/adults from broken homes in that 3-4 minutes. It brought me to a blubbering teary mess THEN, and it STILL gets me bawling now.

                                                                              Thank you, WIll and james.

                                                                              • Kevin Rahbek
                                                                                Kevin Rahbek  1 months back

                                                                                That scene makes me cry no matter how fucking good of a mood im in that day...
                                                                                Superb action from both. RIP James Avery

                                                                                • Antonius
                                                                                  Antonius  1 months back

                                                                                  he just says "will" and he looks the way he looks...and this is enough to give me chills. this is acting!!!it´s more...i am sure, avery has experienced something like that, and now he is giving all this back into one iconic scene. true actor and true man!

                                                                                  • FantasticMrFolf
                                                                                    FantasticMrFolf  2 months back

                                                                                    Call me wrong, but I heard what sounded like Hillary’s actress crying when Will’s hat got knocked off

                                                                                    • Cris Huerta
                                                                                      Cris Huerta  2 months back

                                                                                      When he says “how come he don’t want me?” I started crying so hard. Avery and will were such a good and dynamic duo and I think this show will live on until my kids die I think it’s that good and respected by everyone well done to the both of them and R.I.P to Avery

                                                                                      • Tempest Jackson
                                                                                        Tempest Jackson  2 months back

                                                                                        Will got that rich white guy laugh 😂