Everything Wrong with Dating Today (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

  • Published: 09 December 2018
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  • Kerry Kalls
    Kerry Kalls  3 weeks back

    Even as a valuable young man with a great degree of success and independence, and love and passion and this and that etc; I find that most available women within my league, that I find attractive, that I pursue with clarity, finesse, and respect TO falsely label themselves as out of my league in response to one thing they didn't like and pull away.
    I won't chase them. Ladies, you will not be chased down atop being approached and courted in the first place. At that point you have become very unattractive to the man and you've deluded yourself into believing that hypothetical options ARE more valuable than the attractive man right in front of you. It is SAD.

    • RaRa Rodrigo
      RaRa Rodrigo  1 months back

      Tons of people have been sending him these same kinds of messages and he pushes them aside and moves on to what he thinks will help people.
      Hmmmmm 🤔 does this not sound crazy to anyone else here. If I ran a channel of advice and I had multiple people asking me the same thing then I’d hear the people out. Although I look at the comments section here and it’s 99% women so I think he’s targeting to give sound advice to the ones who are looking for it, not an absent crowd.

      • linnea thomsen
        linnea thomsen  2 months back

        would totally wait for a matthew hussey man go come out :)

        • zzziiizzz
          zzziiizzz  2 months back

          im 25, female & single since 3 years. I don't put any effort anymore in dating since every guy I met was a douche. always on the look for a great fuck but nothing serious. I've found comfort in now truly invest in my life & living my best life. I'm my own best friend & don't need to rely on anyone. I can only suggest everyone to do the same :)

          • Raphael Anyie
            Raphael Anyie  2 months back

            Well said buddy!

            • AR Music
              AR Music  2 months back

              American girls play to many games that's why #Facts

              • Camaro Joe
                Camaro Joe  2 months back

                I have been single for a long time now after being burned too many times. I simply can't believe a single thing a woman says anymore. I'm not saying all women are bad. It's the attractive ones that are bad. They have a line if guys trying to get at them ALL THE TIME. Cell phones and social media makes it too easy for them to cheat. There are good women that are unattractive and overweight. The reason for this is that when they look good they get a self power trip. So if you are dating an attractive woman and the relationship starts to require work or there is a minor issue they would rather run off with the next guy than to put work and dedication into what they already have. I'm a good guy and in no way am I bashing on overweight women. We simply need to be attracted to who we are with. This sometimes makes me wish I was blind. It would make things so much easier. Because I have met some beautiful souls that I was just not attracted to at all. It's a box I think many of us are stuck in.

                • EG Carswell
                  EG Carswell  2 months back

                  Thanks for this video, Matt. Even as a woman myself, I get tired of reading the comments from other chicks screaming, "Tell this to men too!" and "the prospects out here suck, it's not my fault." 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️ Like sis, change your perspective, move on from the hurt one day at a time and take Matt's advice.

                  • A.J. Studebaker
                    A.J. Studebaker  3 months back

                    Poor Jesus dude pass

                    • James D Robertson
                      James D Robertson  3 months back

                      I tried apps, found some who I went on multiple dates with but when I went to delete my profile because it was distracting getting the DMs, I found my date had updated her profile. They were "spinning plates" the whole time. Women are inundated with offers, we may think we do well with 10 responses, they literally get hundreds, not just the hot ladies either. And that's the validation problem of dating apps making "average" women feel more worthy than "average" men.

                      • Domo 718
                        Domo 718  3 months back

                        No Male accountability what so ever

                        • Herald of dissonance
                          Herald of dissonance  2 months back

                          Domo 718. So you say something without elaborating, expect to just be taken for granted. Them someone comes and calls you on it. And you try to shame the person, using a commercial that it seems only you care about. Just so you will not held accountable. Fuck you and your hypocrisy.

                        • Domo 718
                          Domo 718  3 months back

                          @James D Robertson You using my comment a comeback for me only proves my point and your lack of prospective. Let me guess the Gillette commercial got u hurt like that too. Boo hook here's a tissue. You tried it and played yourself. Fuck your highlighted response. Following a man like this dating standards will set awful limits and give you an Express ticket to hell for condemning someone whom you have no birth right to do so.

                        • James D Robertson
                          James D Robertson  3 months back

                          No female accountability whatsoever...
                          As Hitchens said, what can be stated without evidence can be dismissed without evidence.
                          And if you buy into the toxic masculinity bs then it behoves me for the sake of equality to offer up toxic femininity in response. Don't want to be labelled a chauvinist now.

                      • elijah bane25
                        elijah bane25  4 months back

                        I know what wrong with dating now days cough feminism cough cough.

                        • Vegan Vocalist
                          Vegan Vocalist  4 months back

                          Here's a proactive idea , SOCIALS , socials , socials ;D for men AND women . We can they try out all your wonderful advise heehee . Even if its just once a year social , come on it will be GREAT Hussey ;D)))

                          • Bywyd Hyfryd
                            Bywyd Hyfryd  4 months back

                            I'm done with dating apps.

                            • X W
                              X W  4 months back

                              Dating in 2019 is really really hard and thank you so much Matthew for speaking out and sharing your thoughts with us. Please keep doing what you are doing and the world needs more men like you. ❤❤

                              • cc cav
                                cc cav  4 months back

                                I feel the effort is just too much on the man's side of view. Women expect too much and give too little in a society that demands our pay check.

                                • nic chaz
                                  nic chaz  4 months back

                                  men go mgtow

                                  • An English Gent
                                    An English Gent  5 months back

                                    Anyone who thinks swiping left and right is an ok idea it is dangerous! And a bad idea you can’t pick a life girlfriend/wife from an image online! You need to get to know the person beforehand as friends first get to know them that way! You can’t get to know someone in 3-5dates either! Way too quick as I said friends first!

                                    I have morals and need to get to know someone properly first before Even considering dating them! You also need the same values and be compatible and Common ground! Any relationship and most purely go on this looks it won’t last also most relationships that go on dating apps don’t last and tend to fizzle out! As does going on looks!

                                    I am not looking for 10/10 women or a supermodel or a barbie doll I would date women way less than 10/10 i like women that are natural looking feminine lady like don’t wear too much makeup that are shy and not trashy.

                                    I also don’t sleep around and don’t do meaningless stuff whatsoever! I am looking for a woman that also takes care of herself and one that is devoted to the house and children and husband that desires to stay home!

                                    I am 36 I know exactly what I want and I like women that have a good personality inside don’t care how pretty they are not nice inside not interested!

                                    I do not care about bust size hair colour or eye colour with women I am much more realistic about women but still can’t find nobody i have always wanted something serious and yet I can’t find that I do not use online guys like me aren’t online!

                                    • Rush Hinton
                                      Rush Hinton  5 months back

                                      Online dating for men is a joke.

                                      • Isaiah Adams
                                        Isaiah Adams  5 months back

                                        Another problem with dating these days is no one wants to tell the other the other person how they feel, particularly females. Not trying to diss anyone. Just telling the truth

                                        • G Grind
                                          G Grind  5 months back

                                          What is a women's role in the relationship because reading some other platforms and forum's i see that a women's role in a relationship is too simply breathe and be present.. I see so many demands put on Men and women just sit back a reap the benefits. What is a women's role in a relationships and are they implemented goals efficiently in today'ssociety?

                                          • aohwife
                                            aohwife  5 months back

                                            Why doesn’t he just allow men to participate in one call-in session per month? Us ladies would like to hear from them!!

                                            • Ivan Drago
                                              Ivan Drago  5 months back

                                              Men are going MGTOW and they're not chasing women they're chasing their own Goals and Hobbies and Purposes in life they're not chasing women.Guys just Pump and Dump =)

                                              • Owen Luna
                                                Owen Luna  5 months back

                                                Thanks this video means a lot

                                                • GRINGAO
                                                  GRINGAO  5 months back

                                                  Men. So true. This is why women are the real losers in the game. Men are brought up.to acknowledge the chance to die without siblings.. women are biological wired to get a.child.. they feel miserable not having them..

                                                  • P G
                                                    P G  6 months back

                                                    I'm a guy and ive been in tons of relationships and to be honest, now I just stay single its such a simple life.

                                                    • nppyman76
                                                      nppyman76  6 months back

                                                      Are you fucking kidding me. Do you actually see a great deal of these fucking women, how they act and carry themselves?

                                                      • Robert Maxa
                                                        Robert Maxa  6 months back

                                                        I'm an older guy, and I would like to mention that I'm a guy that thinks less is more. There is a girl I know that normally doesn't wear makeup. She's gorgeous, and I've told her so, unfortunately I'm not her type so... Not all of us guys are that shallow.

                                                        • Mike Tran
                                                          Mike Tran  6 months back

                                                          I think the focus here is all wrong. Men make all the sacrifices, men take all the risk, men suffer from all of the consequences from making mistakes. Don’t try to make men perfect and the dating scene may get better again.

                                                          • Naes Grebner
                                                            Naes Grebner  6 months back

                                                            Yeah don't point the finger at us guys when you don't address the ladies and their issues of novelty too dude...just saying. I'm no cowboy but I guess a lot of women want that kind of guy and that's like us dudes wanting a Instagram model when in reality that isn't happening. So it goes both ways...

                                                            • Bradley Olmos
                                                              Bradley Olmos  6 months back

                                                              women just need to get their heads out of their ass and date equal...they are completely ruining everyone's happiness because they try to date up. then they cry the blues when they get older and cant even date equal...you really shouldn't feel sorry for an older woman...they had a precious gift and wasted it being greedy.

                                                              • emanuelgoldstein1984
                                                                emanuelgoldstein1984  6 months back

                                                                With an attitude like that how can she ask why she's single?

                                                                Even at 42 and burned from an emotionally abusive/manipulative ex I know that if I want to start meeting new women my attitude will have to change

                                                                • Jessica Postopoly
                                                                  Jessica Postopoly  6 months back

                                                                  What about the people who lie and say they want something real and serious but they are still logging onto dating sites after you've both agreed to be exclusive and stop doing that? Some people are good liars and it can be hard to weed them out.

                                                                  • Paprika Namjin
                                                                    Paprika Namjin  6 months back

                                                                    Men dont care to become "better" in relationships, they think they're fine how they since they're so unwilling to change so no point of making content for an audience who wouldnt watch.

                                                                    • Kerry Kalls
                                                                      Kerry Kalls  3 weeks back

                                                                      I am living proof to disprove this claim

                                                                  • Kasthuri Pethaperumal
                                                                    Kasthuri Pethaperumal  6 months back

                                                                    In India it is usually the parents who arrange the wedding including the choice of Partner with the consent of their child..you want a happy married life one visits a temple where a Siddhar or Saint is buried ..and the prayer is fulfilled..it is sad that the youth of today wish to select their Mate on their own limited experience which may not be successful

                                                                    • New Order of Alexandria
                                                                      New Order of Alexandria  6 months back

                                                                      I'm only 23 but in my early teens I felt like social media hadn't become so mainstream yet and was simply used to meet friends, etc. I remember just thinking about that one girl I always had my eyes on and no other. Now I message near enough every girl I can find trying to get to know them, only to find out there are a hundred thirsty men chasing them at the same time. It's a cold world, where if you slip up just once it's game over. Like playing a difficult game with only one life.

                                                                      I haven't felt love in almost decades, now it's just lust and a desperate desire to feel validation off women.

                                                                      I go back and forth from dating, quitting only to see friends settle down with partners male and female only for me to go back to that narcissistic world of modern day dating.

                                                                      I'm getting sick of texting girls all day instead of spending all day with them.

                                                                      • zein albasam
                                                                        zein albasam  7 months back

                                                                        Lol I give up on women and dating.theres no point of building something that will come down and crumble.

                                                                        • Mala Murthy
                                                                          Mala Murthy  8 months back

                                                                          I don't think this a situation that ' we are up against...' as he said.....we women are a part of this system....it only works if we choose to keep with it....IMO :)

                                                                          • Emerald Eyes
                                                                            Emerald Eyes  8 months back

                                                                            This is the sad and hard truth: A good 75% or more of the single people you could meet out in the “real” world all have online dating profiles. So it doesn’t matter how you meet them. The douchey person they are online is the douchey person who you will get in the flesh - sometimes not right away, but eventually yes. Most are hooked on the apps, even when exclusive with someone. It’s not the online dating apps that are the problem, it’s the quality of humans today, in general. People are brainwashed into thinking that they are more worthy and more important when getting “hit up” online. The grass isn’t always greener, though. That is the reality. Unfortunately, these players won’t find this out until they’ve messed up a good thing, by playing around on the side, on the apps. It’s almost hopeless, really. Until people wake up and stop expecting instant gratification for almost little to no effort put in, then nothing is going to change. No one is going to have anything meaningful by acting this way. I pray that I meet someone who never uses the internet and was raised to treat people with respect. I might be 90 by then and using a walker, but...lol. *sigh*

                                                                            • Wanda Sexton
                                                                              Wanda Sexton  8 months back

                                                                              Matthew I absolutely love your videos and I put your advice in the practice but there is something about people coming out of 20 and 30 your marriages men and women are so conditioned to behave a certain way. Everybody should go to therapy before they're released into the dating world because you have to have the clarity to see what your part was in the demise of your marriage because if you can't communicate the right way you're just going to waste time and let me tell you men in their 50s do not have it together at all. They want a Barbie. They want a woman in her 50s who has 30 year old skin and who has no brain cells between her ears they're so narcissistic and it's so frustrating for me that I just gave up...they can't hear anything.

                                                                              • Jace Lansing
                                                                                Jace Lansing  8 months back

                                                                                I love this channel. I watch almost every video he makes. Because I want to understand what's going on.

                                                                                • B Real
                                                                                  B Real  8 months back

                                                                                  It may not exclusively be men, but it is predominantly them who are looking for "next."

                                                                                  • thatonerandomcat :3
                                                                                    thatonerandomcat :3  8 months back

                                                                                    This is really true. In BOTH genders.

                                                                                    • Mi Hi
                                                                                      Mi Hi  8 months back

                                                                                      I think we women also in mistake. we make them view us sexually and expect them to love and respect us innocently.
                                                                                      also i do believe there are good guys out there who wants love and are brave enough to be loyal and take responsibility.

                                                                                      • Jay Martinez
                                                                                        Jay Martinez  8 months back

                                                                                        I'm a gay male and for a long time I thought that an excessive obsession with beauty and sex was exclusive to the gay community . But nowadays I think this is applicable for all groups out there like straight men and women. Matthew's videos are definitely helping me to be more successful on dating .

                                                                                        • Loony Lauren
                                                                                          Loony Lauren  8 months back

                                                                                          I talk a little toooo much if my crush is in the room and I have no idea why ...

                                                                                          • Benjamin Gadberry
                                                                                            Benjamin Gadberry  8 months back

                                                                                            I strongly advise single ladies to NOT online date. It encourages the worst, most lazy behaviors in men.

                                                                                            While I know of a few success stories from it, I know many, many more failure stories. I think online dating dehumanizes us. Instead, be as social as you can in the places that make sense for you to meet the person you want to be with. If you like skiing, go skiing with groups. If you like coffee/beer/wine join a club. If you like fitness, don't just go to the gym hoping for a guy to ask you out on the gym floor, go to a gym class where you can have interactions with people. Etc, etc, etc.

                                                                                            As a guy, I refuse to online date because I believe in asking a woman out in person, and making those connections in person. I'm not thinking about swiping left and seeing some other chick. All I'm thinking about is YOU.

                                                                                            • Shruti Kashyap
                                                                                              Shruti Kashyap  9 months back

                                                                                              You're a great human matt. You understand exactly what we struggle with. Unnatural beauty to be certain. Thanks for uploading these videos. Its 3:21am here and I'm grateful to you. Much love ♥️