5 Hidden Insecurities Men Have (But Never Talk About) | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

  • Published: 20 September 2018
  • Mat Boggs shares relationship advice for women and 5 hidden insecurities men have but never talk about

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    As a sought-after dating and relationship coach for women and international speaker, Mat Boggs has helped thousands of women understand men, improve their relationships, and attract the relationship they want.

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Comments • 544

  • Zarin Uddin
    Zarin Uddin  18 hours back

    your videos are amazing. can you post one regarding long distance relationship issues and how to maintain it

    • Lola Cookie
      Lola Cookie  1 weeks back

      A guy I started seeing told me he needs to trust a woman to sleep with her and that he has performance anxiety bc of past experiences. So this rings very true.

      • Ekenna Hutchinson
        Ekenna Hutchinson  1 weeks back


        • Kelley ONeal
          Kelley ONeal  1 weeks back

          The only insecurity my guy struggles with is appearance. He is overweight, but working on it. I love him no matter what. He's already lost over 100 pounds. Every other insecurity you mentioned he has no problem with. He admits when something makes him cry or scared. He told me all his health issues a little at a time, the last one being that he has bipolar disorder.

          • Sarah Assefa
            Sarah Assefa  1 weeks back

            Sooo helpful. Thank-you

            • vi zeath
              vi zeath  1 weeks back

              I think my man has the insecurity number 3 :D

              Well I'm a virgin, why worrying so much

              • Kristin
                Kristin  1 weeks back

                I get insecure and wonder if he will really values me for who I am.

                • Monique Williams
                  Monique Williams  1 weeks back

                  My biggest insecurity is my face. Hope to get surgery to change it someday. 💜

                  • Nicol Alblushi
                    Nicol Alblushi  2 weeks back

                    Thanks so very much Matt for this information it was so helpful to me.....thank you alot

                    • Emokiriemi Abednego
                      Emokiriemi Abednego  2 weeks back

                      Smartness is important in marriage and in a relationship and I’m glad that cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone. I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all deleted and recent chats on his Whatsapp, Twitter,Facebook,Instagram messages and Skype. You can contact this great hacker “Gavin” via Gmail  (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and I hope you find peace of mind after finding the truth just like myself.

                      • El LV
                        El LV  2 weeks back

                        I sincerely enjoy your set...it's rad! Hmm...I wonder what an office settling set would be like on a channel.

                        • Rose Molina
                          Rose Molina  2 weeks back

                          I always had trouble expressing my feelings. I was always quicker to get angry then ever show my fear and sadness. I always challenge myself to be vulnerable now which is really hard but I am tired of being closed off from people.

                          • Holly k
                            Holly k  3 weeks back

                            That I’m not good enough for the man that I want.

                            • Vicki Frederick
                              Vicki Frederick  3 weeks back

                              Being a 6’ tall woman

                              • Jeanine Simien
                                Jeanine Simien  1 months back

                                I was touched the first time my ex cried in front of me because t
                                he shared his vulnerability with me. But after 15 years of seeing him cry every timehe got into trouble, I think I have become numb to that and it has ruined it for any man I date. I don't mean to but I get impatient and have to feign empathy....

                                • Lacey Johnson
                                  Lacey Johnson  1 months back

                                  I feel insecure about my body all the time. I was made fun of as a child everyday. I have evolved into a healthy eating and consistent women who watches her weight. I have learned to love my body and I know the right man will love my body just as much as I love it.

                                  • Carolyn Doyle
                                    Carolyn Doyle  1 months back

                                    I have insecurity about not having much to offer. I'm not happy with my job and my degrees didn't get me anywhere, and I don't have long term experience with relationships that would be appropriate to my age (26). I was insecure about my looks my entire life because I was the boyish girl "just a friend" or "like a sister" or "eww" or "I did this as a dare I can't believe you said yes" when boys were asked if they were my boyfriend, that gave me plenty of issues.

                                    • Lamb Chop
                                      Lamb Chop  1 months back

                                      Simply just being unloveable

                                      • Aimee Sinclair
                                        Aimee Sinclair  1 months back

                                        That they will rather find my friends or family more attractive or interesting. Never had a guy approach me in a coffee shop.

                                        • Mary swords
                                          Mary swords  2 months back

                                          There is a amazing man that I was talking to and I care a lot for and has pushed me away ..

                                          • Dakotayt999 Robbins
                                            Dakotayt999 Robbins  2 months back

                                            Why won't y'all just tell women your problems he'll put your pride down ever once in a while men bc if you keep things in it can hurt your women fr

                                            • Jennie Roman
                                              Jennie Roman  2 months back

                                              La mayor inseguridad en un hombre es no ser bueno en la cama.

                                              • Una Bella Farfalla
                                                Una Bella Farfalla  2 months back

                                                My insecurity is trust.
                                                I was with my exhusband for 20 years. We were high school sweet hearts. Nowadays, people have hidden agendas and most of the time their not genuine. I'm afraid of trusting someone again because I don't want to loose what I've gained and worked hard for being single for 7 years.

                                                • RAFAELA CARLINA
                                                  RAFAELA CARLINA  2 months back


                                                  • Richard B
                                                    Richard B  2 months back

                                                    I was reluctant about finding the truth about my cheating wife but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it and now I believe the saying that “The Truth Will Set You Free” cos I feel better and free now after knowing the truth. I got help from Cyberhackinggenius as he helped cloned my cheating wife’s phone and I got access to all her phone messages both deleted texts and social media chats without touching her phone. I’m glad to uncover her lies, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my wife’s phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read her recent and deleted messages from my phone through a programmed link shared to me without touching her phone and she has no idea her phone has been cloned. I discovered that my wife has been in a long term affair outside our marriage and it was very painful finding out I’m not the biological father of our last child. I’m finalizing my divorce with so many proofs and she is still in a complete shock about my findings. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146.

                                                    • Caribbean Paradise
                                                      Caribbean Paradise  2 months back

                                                      most of these symptoms sounds like a guy who was emotionally abused....sounds a lot like my husband....the end results is not good.

                                                      • kam fan
                                                        kam fan  2 months back

                                                        Loving your channel here in Australia, Matt

                                                        I think I've always been most insecure around being enough for someone... be it a friend or a lover.

                                                        I've always wondering if I have anything of use to give people or the world.

                                                        • Tresa John
                                                          Tresa John  3 months back

                                                          Thank you Mathew. Love from India.

                                                          • Sabrina Latrese
                                                            Sabrina Latrese  3 months back

                                                            Not finishing college, having a degree

                                                            • Elaine Howard
                                                              Elaine Howard  3 months back

                                                              Awww, this made me 😢 Men are wonderful ❤️

                                                              • Sinalane Sthembile
                                                                Sinalane Sthembile  3 months back

                                                                I feel like my insecurity and most women is that we feel like if we don't have the perfect body we're just not enough

                                                                • City
                                                                  City  3 months back

                                                                  To all the beautiful people in these comments who feel not good enough. My heart breaks for you but realize
                                                                  YOU DECIDE WHO YOU ARE. Your parents don’t decide, your husband, your 10th grade boyfriend or your friends. No one decides who you are.
                                                                  If you want to be nice then right now start acting nice. If you want to be good at any subject then start reading and studying it.
                                                                  If you want to be beautiful and feel good enough then tell yourself you are and start acting like you love yourself! I can’t explain enough how if you take physically good care of yourself you will feel a million times better about yourself. Shower, makeup, fix your hair, go for a walk outside, sleep enough. Also cleaning up and beautifying your surroundings does wonders.

                                                                  • ronda thomas
                                                                    ronda thomas  3 months back

                                                                    AMAZING VIDEO!!!! I really also appreciated the way you show men as people with hearts and vulnerabilities and very real things. This gives them the freedom to be their true selves and feel what they really feel without shame. There's way too much out there that reduce men into nothing but negative things. I absolutely loved this video!!! New subscriber...for life. You are brilliant Mat!! Please make more videos on the heart of men and men's needs. I care about these things and appreciate the help and insight. So excited to watch more of your videos. Great job!!!

                                                                    • Roberta Taylor
                                                                      Roberta Taylor  4 months back

                                                                      Thank you Matt. I get scared to look at my guy during sex. He says I am beautiful. But I know I look funny naked LOL.

                                                                      • Liz
                                                                        Liz  4 months back

                                                                        Not being curvy enough as I am very skinny; not being a good girlfriend/wife: not being good at cooking; bad in bed; too shy and quiet and I also on the autism spectrum. Being hurt and cheated on. Not getting enough attention from men; not being feminine enough. Flat-chested.

                                                                        • Shorty
                                                                          Shorty  4 months back

                                                                          I’m insecure about not being enough for my partner in a sense that what I bring to the relationship will never be enough.

                                                                          • Sarah Assefa
                                                                            Sarah Assefa  1 weeks back

                                                                            And my insecurity is that my partner might shy away and feel inadequate when i share how incredibly competent i am. Professionally, and in bed. Ive lost insecure partners like this. So ive been inauthentic, hid my light in a bushel. And been single.

                                                                        • cinidevil
                                                                          cinidevil  4 months back

                                                                          I feel insecure about how well I’m distinguishing between moments where I should slip into more of a masculine energy and moments where I should be feminine. I think I turn some guys off me because I fail in that regard, oh... and girls, girls get turned off me too. Issa mood

                                                                          • Emokiriemi Abednego
                                                                            Emokiriemi Abednego  4 months back

                                                                            Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally  married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail  (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.

                                                                            • Adam
                                                                              Adam  4 months back

                                                                              I only really have ever had one insecurity and that is that the woman I love doesn't need me. My mom raised me to be helpful, to contribute to women and stand on my own two feet when I'm alone. I have a girlfriend now who is successful, intelligent, independent and earns more than me and basically has her entire life set I feel like a 5th wheel. My insecurity is that I am just here because of pure sentiment, she wants me only because it emotionally intrigues or amuses her and even though she says she loves me I can't help but feel this creeping suspicion that she will drop me as soon as I become an inconvenience to her. I literally have nothing to offer her and I can't fully understand why she even accepted me unless It was just to emotionally experiment.

                                                                              • Dani G
                                                                                Dani G  4 months back

                                                                                Literally all of the above is what I am insecure about. My body, having emotions, rejection, etc.

                                                                                • Rae Peronneau
                                                                                  Rae Peronneau  4 months back

                                                                                  My insecurities are that I’m too much... and not enough at the same time. I’m too independent, too strong, too political, too loud, too opinionated, too successful and too smart. While also being not feminine enough (I love sports, the outdoors and getting dirty) not demure enough, not passive enough definitely not subservient enough. Basically, I’m never right.

                                                                                  • Aki Scott
                                                                                    Aki Scott  4 months back

                                                                                    Thank you...this was insightful

                                                                                    • Sondra Myles
                                                                                      Sondra Myles  4 months back

                                                                                      I sometimes feel insecure about my no body because I have cellulite on my thighs.

                                                                                      • Carla Kay Fast
                                                                                        Carla Kay Fast  5 months back

                                                                                        I met a guy on a dating site. He's still on there but he told me he hasn't talked to anyone else sense he's talking too me. We have text talk on the phone and had two dates. I made a mistake on the first date. I met to tell him I love his blue eyes and it came out that I love you. I apologize and he said don't be. He lives hour and 20 minutes from me. Our 2 date I asked about us and he said I know what's going in that head and he said if I didn't like you or want to see you I wouldn't driver hour and 20 minutes to see you. He also said he isn't going any where. He texts me in the morning and at night. He texted me and I ask if I could talk to him and he said sure. We talked for hour and half. How can I tell if he likes me or not?

                                                                                        • Sunita Fisher
                                                                                          Sunita Fisher  5 months back

                                                                                          🌸 Women don’t care if guy isn’t a great lover, we just want good love that’s true and genuine from the heart
                                                                                          Their respect and not to have them place us on a pedestal. We want their attention and not adoration
                                                                                          We want them, their true self and not their fantasies. To hold their trust as we in turn trust them and not have them be fickle and stray

                                                                                          We want to be life partner and not dictator, a friend and companion and not a master

                                                                                          We just want to be loved and have something real and non perfect, because life isn’t without it’s ups and downs
                                                                                          But when it comes, to know he has your back and stand by your side, just means the whole world to a woman
                                                                                          and not someone that runs the first sign of difficulties

                                                                                          • Irene Kim
                                                                                            Irene Kim  5 months back

                                                                                            As a woman, my father told me to do shut down my emotions. It is not the right thing to do. Then again I grew up in the military background and even at home my father would treat me and my sister like we were little soldiers. It was tough to deal with. We had to toughen up or face the wrath of my father. It can not only numb you but you will have some sort of nervous breakdown later on in life. That isn't healthy.

                                                                                            • Soothing Sounds
                                                                                              Soothing Sounds  5 months back

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                                                                                              • D. F.
                                                                                                D. F.  6 months back

                                                                                                My father sat me down and told me that I’m ugly and boring. That there is not one single thing about me that a man could possibly love and if a man did show me any attention, he was just trying to get money. He went on to disclose that he was telling me this for my own good, so I would stop hoping and focus on accumulating enough assets to support myself in my spinsterhood. The few times when men say something friendly to me I always feel like they’re being sarcastic or making fun of me for being ugly. So even when the cook at the takeout place calls me “Chiquita” when he takes my order, I want to crawl back into my car and pretend nobody can see me. I guess my point is that you shouldn’t say stupid mean shit to your kids.

                                                                                                • Adam
                                                                                                  Adam  4 months back

                                                                                                  You've just described pretty much every boy's childhood. That is why every time women flirt with some guys we do not take it seriously or we think she just wants money or a favor or she is being sarcastic. This is how "ghosting" was created. Men who turn into ghosts are just guys who disappear from every woman;s radar because they hate their attention.