He's Not Ready for a Relationship - Do This and Make Him Commit Now

  • Published: 18 April 2019
  • In this video, you will learn what to do when he says he's not ready for a relationship. I’m going to tell you exactly what to do to turn things around and have him pleading for a committed relationship with you.

    I’m Dr Antonio Borrello, and I’m a psychologist and relationship coach. This channel is all about helping you build great relationships so you can grow happy with the people you love. So, if you’re interested in dating advice and relationship advice that is focused on making your love life the best part of your life, start now by subscribing here.


    And Join our conversation on social media.

    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/aborrello2
    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/edatingdr/
    Twitter https://twitter.com/eDatingDr

    Are you interested in dating advice for women or advice on relationship problems? If so, you have found the dating coach for you. This channel is all about love tips, relationships and love, relationship problems and signs he likes you. Essentially, this channel is focused on love advice and helping you understand what men want.

    I'm happy to answer subscriber dating and relationship questions anonymously. Email AntonioBorrello@icloud.com

Comments • 837

  • Antonio Borrello
    Antonio Borrello   8 months back

    Hi Everyone.. Please share some ideas or topics that you would like to see me cover in a future video. Also, if you have relationship questions, you can email them to me at antonioborrello@icloud.com

    • Sara Koujji
      Sara Koujji  1 weeks back

      Hi, I would like a video on a long-distance when he is focused on finding a job and getting out of a difficult situation and therefore he has nothing to give right now.

    • Precious Horsley
      Precious Horsley  3 weeks back

      Hi, Dr. Antonio
      I met this guy, I fell very quickly for him. First two weeks, we both texts back and forth. Talking to me every day. We set up a date and it was very good and we expressed our feelings. But since after that date, he has changed, don't talk much or call as before. Though he texts every day as if he is forced to.
      I love him so much. How can I make this relationship work? Or should I let it go? He is very distant. Not even talking about any future date. Please, I need your help.

    • Carice Watkins
      Carice Watkins  1 months back

      Hello wanted to be sure that you received my request for a video on the topic of when he says I'm not saying we can never be together thank you so much you are truly inspirational

    • khouloud khémir
      khouloud khémir  3 months back

      I want tips for dating a super rich playboy

    • endu lodhia
      endu lodhia  3 months back

      Thank you so much.. 😍

  • Emilia Kapambwe
    Emilia Kapambwe  1 days back

    Thank you for the great tips

    • Suryansh Sinha
      Suryansh Sinha  4 days back

      Topic suggestion: how to trust falling in love after a heartbreak or divorce in middle age

      • CandyXsnoepjehh lolly
        CandyXsnoepjehh lolly  5 days back

        Hi @antonio , i always look at your videos. Thank you for all your words. He also said to me he can’t have a relationship right now because of distance and much things. I’m hurt

        • Mary North
          Mary North  5 days back

          Those suggestions only work if the guy is actually interested in you. I suffered with a "non commitment" guy for a year. We were just like boyfriend/girlfriend, but he wouldn't commit. I did all those suggestions, but in the end, he didn't care when I left him.

          • cynparas
            cynparas  5 days back

            Absolutely right!

            • Adi Adya
              Adi Adya  6 days back

              I am having a long distance relationship....better to say we’ve never even met yet.Everything’s complicated....I dunno what to do 😫😫😫

              • mom's star playway & Day care

                Hey I'm from India and basically watching your all videos I would like to share with you that I am in long distance relationship, and it's not healthy relationship so what should I do in this situation????

                • mom's star playway & Day care
                  mom's star playway & Day care  7 days back

                  @Antonio Borrello should I left him??? What should I do I use to think about him whole day , can't concentrate on my work , please guide me 😭

                • mom's star playway & Day care
                  mom's star playway & Day care  7 days back

                  @Antonio Borrello ya so many times just few months before plz help me I don't wants to go back in depression he is having a girl in her life but he said that they both are just a friend , he is responding my calls calling me back chats everything but still I'm having securities plz help me

                • Antonio Borrello
                  Antonio Borrello   7 days back

                  +mom's star playway & Day care Have you ever met him in person?

              • Christine GERARD
                Christine GERARD  1 weeks back

                Thank you very much for the harm you give yourself to help us ! ...From France ...where the problems are the same !

                • ymarrero23
                  ymarrero23  1 weeks back

                  Then you as a woman say goodbye, I’m not playing these horrible demonic games. If you want a relationship and marriage then leave. I learned that a long time ago I will never love another man so hard that I will let him do whatever he wants to me again. If he doesn’t want a relationship nor marriage then fine I block him and start the grieving process.

                  • Beautifully& Wonderfullymade

                    I know a guy he wanted something to stop between us it was sex and I only wanted sex too it’s was a physical attraction between us he wants to end it because he can see feelings growing (emotional feelings) and it’s not the right time he says lol what’s he saying 🤔

                    • Lee Tre
                      Lee Tre  2 weeks back

                      In other words... men are annoying

                      • LNGG's Channel
                        LNGG's Channel  2 weeks back

                        Great video! Thanks.

                        • Mary Lincoln
                          Mary Lincoln  2 weeks back

                          Verryyy Useful Video..I Really Learned Alot

                          • Destinee Alexia
                            Destinee Alexia  2 weeks back

                            What if you’ve already talked about it multiple times with him? How do you come back from that?

                            • Brittney Pereira
                              Brittney Pereira  2 weeks back

                              Thank you! Great video

                              • marieanne orduson
                                marieanne orduson  2 weeks back

                                I'm sticking to the last point.

                                • Wander Woman
                                  Wander Woman  2 weeks back

                                  How is it fair to man #2 if you're only using him to make #1 squirm? smh

                                  • Leah simiyu
                                    Leah simiyu  3 weeks back

                                    Yeah, he says he is not ready for relationship, yeah I don't have his time lol, let me mind my own business.

                                    • Maria Yonz
                                      Maria Yonz  3 weeks back

                                      This is what happening to me with my partner now..I'm so stress 💔💔💔

                                      • Joanne Ngaha
                                        Joanne Ngaha  3 weeks back

                                        I have a topic it might sound silly.
                                        How to confront your partner about cheating.
                                        You may already have covered this topic its just something lm trying to do at the moment.. Peace# Love ❤️ Thank you

                                        • EDITH WANJIRU
                                          EDITH WANJIRU  3 weeks back

                                          This was cool. I still have a problem its private how do I get your number soo that I can share it with. I know I will get help from you.

                                          • Green Beauty
                                            Green Beauty  3 weeks back

                                            I emailed you but you didn't reply

                                            • Ganda Ka?
                                              Ganda Ka?  4 weeks back

                                              I love this video thank you Antonio ! VERY ACCURATE !!! I’ve been doing all your advice all the time. Just dating this person for two months. 💯💯💯

                                              • eton mariam
                                                eton mariam  4 weeks back

                                                Thank you so much for such a wonderful advise on commitment. I think the next video should be on how to deal with the insecurity in the relationship.

                                                • Rosemarie Hunter
                                                  Rosemarie Hunter  4 weeks back

                                                  Dr. Borrello thank you....I learned so much from this video...as always you hit the mark.

                                                  • TheKrista5
                                                    TheKrista5  4 weeks back

                                                    That's why staying is the best way to go. People are not loyal or faithful. I have better relationships with my money. Don't approach me and want boyfriend perks but not the title.

                                                    • Starchild goddess_’333
                                                      Starchild goddess_’333  1 months back

                                                      Wonderful advice!!👏🏾👏🏾

                                                      • Neko.Tsuki M.M
                                                        Neko.Tsuki M.M  1 months back

                                                        Dr Borello what if I would like an opinion on my very difficult situation in private? ☹ situation is similar...but we are married!.... help 🙁

                                                        • 14Alyon14
                                                          14Alyon14  1 months back

                                                          He told me that he didnt want a commited relarioship...he wanted to know me more and to fucus on his career...5 months later i've met all his family and he changed a lot...trust your instinct.

                                                          • BittyBallOfCurly
                                                            BittyBallOfCurly  2 weeks back

                                                            What happened/what did you do during this 5 months?

                                                        • imposphere
                                                          imposphere  1 months back

                                                          I'm the guy who is not ready for commitments so i'm watching this to change help me how can i commit to her :(

                                                          • Carice Watkins
                                                            Carice Watkins  1 months back

                                                            Hello I am a new subscriber to your Channel yeah advice is so helpful I've already done Step 1 and 2 step three is definitely going to be a little hard what if I allow him to come see me but not give him sex because that's exactly what he wants will it still be effective also is it possible you can do a video on when he says I'm not saying we can never be together I've searched the internet and there's absolutely nothing on this topic once again thank you so much love watching your videos

                                                            • Carice Watkins
                                                              Carice Watkins  1 months back

                                                              Thanks but that's exactly my point he wouldn't be getting the benefit and that's sex I was basically asking if I still allow him to come see me and not give him what he came for sex

                                                            • Antonio Borrello
                                                              Antonio Borrello   1 months back

                                                              Welcome. I’m so happy that you’ve subscribed. Think of this... why would he need to be a boyfriend if he’s already getting all of the “boyfriend benefits” without having to commit.

                                                          • Renee wiedenmann
                                                            Renee wiedenmann  1 months back

                                                            I would like to see a topic on divorced ppl getting back into the dating world especially the newly divorced folks with kids. How do you transition? How long should you wait before you start dating again? How do you react to men who have children as well as you when is it a good time to introduce them to one another? And last but not least sex if its an option or not like in my situation (celibate) how do you date knowingly your not looking to engage in intimacy period with someone (because your just not ready) Ive been separated since 2016 and waiting on finalization with paperwork. I'm ready to start seeing someone and I have a few options and I want to casually date. I have a person in mind but he made it clear that he is not looking to be in a relationship with anyone at the moment. He constantly calls and wants to interact daily the attraction is definitely there we've known each other for years and he's knows my ex-husband so he's aware of my situation and my intimacy choice. But I dont want to just be friends my feelings are becoming greater I've already removed myself twice and he goes out his way to still stay in contact and does want to see me and speak to me daily but is not ready to commit.

                                                            • meranda zyne
                                                              meranda zyne  1 months back

                                                              Hey am yollanda ,i have been dating aguy for ayear now ,we were just fine then out of blue he told me he doesnt want love anymore and i dnt know what to do anymore.Please help me out i love him

                                                              • meranda zyne
                                                                meranda zyne  4 weeks back

                                                                Nothing happen ,we were fine then he said he doesnt want love anymore am confused maybe he got another crush ,please help me out how can i move on

                                                              • Antonio Borrello
                                                                Antonio Borrello   1 months back

                                                                Hi +meranda zyne

                                                                I'm sorry to hear about your situation. What happened before that?

                                                                Thanks for commenting and for watching.
                                                                Be Well

                                                            • Karen Garcia
                                                              Karen Garcia  1 months back

                                                              Can u make a video on why we get hung up on one person and how to detach ourselves ...

                                                              • Iulia Cazachevici
                                                                Iulia Cazachevici  1 months back

                                                                This video is really helpful, thank youu!

                                                                • Andrea Lutri
                                                                  Andrea Lutri  1 months back

                                                                  Peter Pan syndrome!!! Thanks for your videos, I am learning so much 🙏🏻

                                                                  • Antonio Borrello
                                                                    Antonio Borrello   1 months back

                                                                    thank you so much for watching and commenting. Antonio

                                                                • Tara Perkins-Robinson
                                                                  Tara Perkins-Robinson  1 months back

                                                                  Dating is good but isn't dating guys you're not interested in leading them on?

                                                                  • Carli Busher
                                                                    Carli Busher  1 months back

                                                                    My problem is that when he told me he wasnt ready he said hed like to hopefully go bsck to being friend's so hes ended it completely hes given no signs that hell ever want me back ... help

                                                                  • Mandies Candy
                                                                    Mandies Candy  1 months back

                                                                    I have a group on another app and talk to alot of guys about this...they all say the same thing....setting those time limits for self is a major plus, for a woman....let him know upfront....1)like my 30 day limit on setting up the first date, that he must set up...2) keeping my train moving...you either jump on board or I'm leaving you on the platform...my life does not stop for man, period....3) listen to this one, they told me this one...🤣a guy knows usually right away, within the first month, if he wants to make a go of it long term with you or not....don't believe their bullshit, call them on it...actions speak louder the lies coming out of their pussy smelling mouths🤷 keep your damn legs closed til marriage, and demand respect or they will take advantage of you

                                                                    • Ritzhel Lumen
                                                                      Ritzhel Lumen  1 months back

                                                                      Thank you, I love this video, I'm so relate..

                                                                      • Jennifer Short
                                                                        Jennifer Short  2 months back

                                                                        Men who are very intelligent and use it against you to justify his unwillingness to commit.

                                                                        • mimisjems
                                                                          mimisjems  2 months back

                                                                          TOPIC: What to do when a man keeps coming back to you and finally says he wants to be in a committed relationship with you, but doesn't really come through.

                                                                          • mimisjems
                                                                            mimisjems  2 months back

                                                                            The man I've been seeing on and off for the past 4 months does not have a job or a car, but finally asked me to be his girlfriend after being unsure if he wanted to be in a committed relationship. This time I told him that I needed time to decide, but after a couple of weeks of trying him out, he ghosted me yet again. I sent him a nice "Dear John" note on Instagram to let him know that I'm finally done with us, but we can be platonic friends like we were all those years back in school and to take care. In the meantime I'm talking to other men on dating sites and going on dates which is what I recommend women in my similar situation to do as well. Best of luck ladies and stay strong and positive!! ((SI SE PUEDE!!😉))

                                                                            • NAMJOON IS MINE AND I PURPLE YOU

                                                                              I’m not ready for friends of benefits and he’s not ready to date but we have feelings for each other so what do I do

                                                                              • Traveling Diva2018
                                                                                Traveling Diva2018  2 months back

                                                                                He doesn't want me and that's okay. Heartbreak only made me stronger. I now have my passport and travel out of the Country 3xs a year, I own my own business now and my therapy career is going well. I wish him well; but I no longer want or need him. He will be ready for a relationship, when his dream girl comes along; I just wasn't it for him.

                                                                                • Soy la Pu
                                                                                  Soy la Pu  2 months back

                                                                                  Very good content!

                                                                                  • Missy Fox
                                                                                    Missy Fox  2 months back

                                                                                    Topic: What to do to intrigue a fella who WANTS and is seeking a relationship with the right woman? Whom 5 months ago had a great deal of common interests and hobbies, attraction, lifestyle, morals, goals and sexual chemistry, but then was scared off by clinging, fear of abandonment and lack of trust. Which caused a desperate reaction to keep him and ultimately was rejected; now has zero contact and communication with this person and went back to seeing another woman he had been seeing sexually prior to the woman who he was more attracted to and pursuing but screwed up emotionally. He will not commit or make the relationship official with the woman he is currently sleeping with and continues to date others seeking a serious partner.
                                                                                    My question is: Is there any way to win him back and how...?

                                                                                    • Christine O
                                                                                      Christine O  2 months back

                                                                                      Thats not a man who wants a relationship, thats a fuck boy who's tricked you into believing he's not.